Death and her compass

16 MINUTES

Why one death doula sees an examined death as vital to a good life

The short documentary Death and Her Compass follows Andrews ‘Bones’ Nelson, a death doula, as she helps those nearing the end of their lives to cultivate an inner peace with their fate. Born with a heart condition that forced her to confront mortality from an early age, Nelson grew to see death not as an enemy, but as a companion. The US filmmaker Annie Marr captures Nelson with tenderness and care as she reflects on matters of grief and mortality, and the meaning she finds in giving comfort to the dying. Working with her clients, she helps them plan for their last days and confront the numbness, avoidance and fear that often surround the experience, making what are frequently considered difficult conversations feel more natural.

Marr’s meditative winter shots of Maine’s snowy, tranquil forests and rocky beaches elegantly convey death as a fundamental part of life’s rhythm, inherent to all things. Nelson’s contemplation of an animal skull and a beach shell underscores the inevitability of our shared fate, highlighting the circularity of life. Through the film, Marr and Nelson invite viewers to transform fear of death – or at least those deaths that conclude a long, well-lived life – into awe, and to find value in the questions so many people prefer to avoid.

Director: Annie Marr

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