Sex and sexuality

Articles, Films and practical Guides on sex and sexuality, part of Psyche’s coverage of self-knowledge and personal growth.
An older couple sitting on a bench in a park with a historical building and fountain in the background.

How to date again after an abusive relationship

You might feel unlovable or find dating daunting, but you deserve connection – and you can find it safely at your own pace

by Charlotte Jarvis

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GRIEF

How queer last rites became unique celebrations of life

Directed by Mariana Leal

Abstract painting of two figures sunbathing on a beach with a blue sky background.

An unlikely chat transforms a father-daughter relationship

A film by Jeanne Paturle and Cécile Rousset

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The cage

In a heterosexual breakup, the script is clean: loss, anger, distance. Ours refused that narrative

by Margie Sarsfield

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LOVE

More than laissez-faire love – demystifying modern polyamory

Video by Esther Perel

A person handling several 1000 Kenyan shilling banknotes at a desk, with motion blur on one note being moved.

Accidental millionaire

When a big deposit appeared from nowhere in my account, it changed my life – but not how you’d think

by Kelvin Njeri

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Severe joy

I wanted conviction to tell me if I could be gay and Catholic. My convictions told me something bigger

by Will Martino

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A kaleidoscope? A milestone? Beyond description? Women put orgasms into words

Directed by Bronwen Parker-Rhodes

Illustration of a simple cartoon figure with a bob haircut wearing a green crop top and red skirt on a light background.

Growing pains, bras, size, sex – a group of women get candid about all things boobs

A film by Subarna Dash and Vidushi Gupta

Blurry monochrome photograph of two intertwined nude bodies in an ethereal style.

How to handle a mismatch in sexual desire

A difference in sexual appetite is a common source of tension for couples. Don’t ignore it – turn toward it with curiosity

by Ann O’Brien

Illustration of two female anthropomorphic bears in a romantic embrace sitting on a window sill, with trees in the background and a red bird beside them.

Sweet illustrations capture women’s stories of first-time queer attraction

A film by Diane Obomsawin

A Chinese middle-aged woman tending plants on a rooftop garden with residential buildings and a blue sky in the background.

Shuli’s mother has known he was gay for years. Can they finally talk about it?

A film by Shuli Huang

Painting of a seated man looking at a small dog, which has its paw on his knee in a room with a decorated door.

How the law soothed broken hearts in 19th-century America

What does a deep dive into the transcripts of historical seduction trials reveal about how we account for hurt feelings?

by Jinal Dadiya

Abstract blue and white line drawing of multiple nude female figures, seen from various angles, arranged in a pattern.

A minotaur shifts shapes and sexes in this ferociously original animation

A film by Chaerin Im

A smiling shirtless man with the outline of a child, as if cut out by scissors, sitting on his shoulders.

No kidding! Inside one childless comedian’s choice to get a vasectomy

A film by Jordan Temple

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The ways Sugar Babies navigate two roles: lover and employee

‘Sugaring’ involves the commodification of romance – presenting a puzzle of love, labour and autonomy for those involved

by Brynn Valentine