Love

Articles, Films and practical Guides on love, part of Psyche’s coverage of relationships, work and leisure.
An older couple sitting on a bench in a park with a historical building and fountain in the background.
TRAUMA AND PTSD

How to date again after an abusive relationship

You might feel unlovable or find dating daunting, but you deserve connection – and you can find it safely at your own pace

by Charlotte Jarvis

Black and white photo of a person with long hair reflected in glass talking on a mobile phone in an urban setting.
LOVE
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Why being ghosted is inevitable and being a ghoster is too

Being ghosted can feel shocking. But we need to get used to it because there’s no other way to cope with our world

by Dominic Pettman

A couple sitting in a beach chair on a sandy shore during a cloudy evening surrounded by empty striped chairs.
LOVE

It’s a gift to share reality with someone

My partner and I often seem to respond to the world in similar ways. Research suggests this may have benefits for us both

by Hannah Seo

Photo of a woman in a red dress running barefoot on a path with a scarf trailing behind her, greenery in the background.
HISTORY OF IDEAS

What a romantic comedy cliché reveals about modern love

Video by The Nerdwriter

A bearded person gently cradling a newborn wrapped in a patterned blanket by a window in soft light.
EMOTIONS

Why kama muta is an emotion worth seeking

I wasn’t quite sure what this moving, warm-and-fuzzy feeling was, until research put a name to it: ‘kama muta’

by Hannah Seo

Photo of two women sitting in blue chairs talking in a bright room with plants, a patterned table between them.
LOVE

More than laissez-faire love – demystifying modern polyamory

Video by Esther Perel

Painting of a man with a dark beard and cloth headwear aiding an injured man wearing a toga in a pastoral landscape with horses and a rider in the background.
LOVE

More than just a feeling, love can guide our moral compasses

Video by The Well

Illustration of a couple holding hands walking past a giant cheque that unravels to reveal a scenic view of a bridge over a river and the Eiffel tower.
LOVE

My swindler sweetheart

I was a pushover with a habit of picking cheating men as boyfriends; then one of them pushed me too far

by Patricia Olsen

Oil painting diptych of a man rowing a boat and a woman in blue with a green background.
LOVE

Two lives drift apart and come together in a love story told one brush stroke at a time

Directed by Ian Bruce

Black and white photo of a man and woman sitting under an umbrella; the woman leans on the man’s shoulder.
COMMUNICATION AND LANGUAGE

True contact is found in silence

For Emil Cioran, ‘true contact’ with another is the deep intimacy that emerges through mute togetherness

by Sam Dresser

An elderly man smiling broadly with sunglasses on, reclining on a floral lounge chair beside an elderly woman outdoors.
LOVE
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Does it matter if your romantic partner is similar to you?

From traits like extraversion to specific habits, there are many ways a couple can match. New research tests whether it helps

by Phuong Linh L Nguyen & Moin Syed

An elderly woman in black standing in a garden of pink roses with snow-capped mountains in the background.
HABITS AND ROUTINES

Mzia the elevator operator leaves her post for the first time in two decades

Directed by Madeline Leary

Black and white photo of people embracing and saying goodbye at a train station.
LOVE
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It’s possible to become wiser in who you entrust with your love

Love is not merely irrational – there’s a sense in which it’s also based on reason, which means we can get better at it

by Joel Van Fossen

Paper collage of a man and a woman lying on the floor petting a grey rabbit and a white cat with a small table in the background.
MIND AND BRAIN
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After a life-altering diagnosis, Case crafts a loving message to his future self

A film by Case Jernigan

Painting of an elderly couple in 16th century attire, man in fur-lined coat and woman in white headdress on green background.
LOVE
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There’s no good reason to love each other – and that’s a relief

Loving is an unreasonable decision (we are all extremely unpleasant little beasts) and that’s what allows it to survive

by John Kaag

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LOVE
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How to make a long-distance relationship work

Whether an hour or an ocean apart, there will be challenges, but this therapist shows how to make the most of the upsides

by Charlie Huntington