Popular Notes to Self

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People in a small, well-lit Japanese restaurant or bar, with a menu on the wall and beverages on the counter.

A little Japanese trick for saying ‘no’

If an outright refusal feels rude but you don’t want to have to explain, here’s how to say ‘no’ the Japanese way

by Richard Fisher

A person lying in bed under a duvet, arms covering face; bedside table with books, a lamp, a mug and reading glasses.

Sleep is important, but not that important

It’s good that we’re taking sleep more seriously than we used to, but the messaging about its importance has gone too far

by Alice Gregory

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JOY

A way to enjoy more positive mental images

Psychologists have tested a way to seed ‘involuntary positive mental images’ in the brain. You can try it for yourself

by Christian Jarrett

A man stands in a modern room looking at a large pink sculpture of tentacles outside the window.

What style of curiosity do you practise?

New research shows that people satisfy their curiosity in different ways. Are you a hunter, a busybody or a dancer?

by Richard Fisher

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How slow breathing calms down your brain

Researchers studied the effect of slow breathing on people’s brain activity while they experienced anticipatory anxiety

by Christian Jarrett

Page from a book with printed text about society and handwritten notes in the margin, including ’True but only in part‘.

The value of scribbling in the margins

Marginalia is far from inessential. It would be a shame if it died off in the digital age

by Richard Fisher

Three people chatting at a rustic bar in a pub, with a brick interior and various decorations.

Our relationships, in five dimensions

Scientists offer a new way to compare and contrast social ties – like a ‘Big Five’ for relationships

by Matt Huston

An adult and child looking at Santa inside a large snow globe with snowy trees at dusk.

Seeing all the parts of a tough situation

Taking a difficult experience and inspecting its elements might help us feel better about it

by Matt Huston

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MUSIC

The beats that make us want to move

Some musical rhythms are built to get us bobbing, foot-tapping or dancing. Researchers show how rhythmic complexity matters

by Matt Huston

Pencil sketches of six faces and profiles on paper including bearded men and a woman with hair tied back.

As if

Why we should embrace beliefs or stories that may not be, strictly speaking, true but are to some extent useful or good

by Sam Dresser

Photo of a person reading Tolstoy’s “War and Peace” with a red decorative cover while sitting near a window.

My year of slow-reading War and Peace

Reading a chapter a day of War and Peace shows how a manageable, regular habit can build into a much bigger accomplishment

by Freya Howarth

A mountain peak with a walking path and hikers, under a clear blue sky with scattered clouds.

The benefits of thinking about deep time

On a walk through the Welsh countryside, I travelled through 4.6 billion years of Earth history – and you can too

by Richard Fisher

A group of office workers turned to face a colleague, clapping and smiling, in a modern meeting room setting.

Are you saying ‘thank you’ too effusively?

Research suggests that people who express their gratitude more effusively are judged as lower status and less influential

by Christian Jarrett

Two colourful birds on a branch one with wings spread against a blurred background.

I’m trying a different approach to listening

Practising Carl Rogers’s unconditional positive regard helps me be more compassionate and less judgmental – of myself too

by Molly Williamson

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The eerie phenomenon that keeps popping up

Ever feel like a word or person you just learned about has been showing up repeatedly? There’s a term for that

by Hannah Seo

A man with white hair in a suit sitting at the head of an empty boardroom table, facing forward, back toward the camera. Dozens of empty chairs line the outer edges of the room; windows at the rear of the room show trees outside.

Don’t fall victim to the Peter Principle

You mustn’t assume that the skills that served you well in the past will be enough for any new challenges that lie ahead

by Christian Jarrett